Dating someone dealing with grief
I could introduce you to two a dozen beautiful, fun, attractive, and trustworthy women today. This is the most likely cause of your issues with her male ‘Friends’. How much time to do you think George Clooney spends worrying about whether or not that guy in the office down the hall from his wife wants to sleep with her? You’re right: get plastic surgery to look like Brad Pitt! Deal with your insecurities, deal with your limiting beliefs, create a life that’s exciting and fulfilling, become strong, powerful, Independent, and learn to share the excitement, passion, and joy you have in your life with the high-quality women who pass through your life.
How much time do you think Brad Pitt devotes to monitoring the text messages Angelina’s sending to that who’s editing her latest script? Or, if the idea of spending hundreds of thousands of dollars and plastering someone else’s face over yours is slightly weird, just become the most attractive version possible of yourself. Like the most attractive guy any girl you know has ever met. And as you’re doing that, find one who’s excited to be part of the incredible adventure you’re on and then take it from there.
Even if you can effectively control her life and who she communicates with in one moment in time, you can’t stand next to her 24 hours a day watching who she speaks to and who she spends time with.
They have nothing better going in their life and so they’re willing to put up with a domineering and controlling partner who allows his insecurities to dictate who she can and cannot spend her time with. When you imagine your perfect future, do you wake up every day next to a needy and dependent woman who allows everyone else in her life control her actions? And if that wasn’t enough, The Outer strategy also has another serious flaw: you’re not solving the real problem.
No, it’s not because of some evolutionary psychology brain structure or some hard-wired biological state, it’s for one of two reasons: 1. You don’t believe you’re as attractive as the other guys That’s it. There’s nothing else to blame, like the media, your parents, or some book you read. Firstly, if it’s #1, WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU WITH A WOMAN YOU DON’T TRUST??? If she’s not trustworthy then ditch her and find a woman who is! They know, without a doubt, that they’re some of the most attractive men on the entire planet and therefore, they don’t care who their partners are talking to.
And don’t give me that crap about “All women are cheaters and you can’t trust any of them! There are plenty of high-quality, trustworthy women on this planet. With that in mind, can you guess what The Inner strategy consists of?
When you think about your future, in particular, your future relationships, which of these two options sounds more like the life you want to live?
"am finding myself slipping into feelings of resentment quite often" if you love him..
The problem with The Outer strategy is that it only really works on insecure women with no options.
So, that brings us to strategy 2: The Outer strategy dealt with everything outside your control, namely her, her communication, and her friends.
Once I learned to take a step back, breathe, and think of a reasonable argument in a calm, low tone, things got SO much better. I'll talk from your hubsnd's perspective, if you'll permit.
Although a person with AS can tell they've angered or disappointed you, they rarely understand why.
And how do you deal with the inevitable jealousy and insecurities that naturally appear in your life? You can complain about how insecure it makes you feel because you know they want to sleep with her and how she needs to stop it. You tell her how she needs to live her life so you feel better and you can leave her if she doesn’t comply. Spending your life trying to control the people she spends time with (The Outer) is a flawed and painful strategy and is never going to allow you to create an incredible relationship with a high-quality woman.