8 simple rules for dating my teenage daughtercomplete
There is no chance for a normal relationship with the mother.
There was never a normal, loving relationship -- and I am 52.
I love and respect her very much, but I am ashamed to say, I don't like my mother.
Does anyone else have this problem and if so, how do you deal with it?
For example, you do not need to answer the phone when she calls.
You do not need to defend your self when she critiques you.
For example, most of us understand that if one wants good service from a waiter or clerk, one needs to treat them with respect, which can be as simple as saying please and thank you.
It sounds like this is a life lesson your mother has never had to learn because you and your step father have put up with her rudeness and abuse.
I have had many nasty confrontations with her and have asked her to keep her opinions to herself and to please respect my wishes. She is extremely lazy, very over weight thus has many health issues because of it.Being the oldest, I basically did all the cleaning when I was living at home and helped with the three younger kids. The sad thing is, if she died, I honestly would be relieved. I know I am not the one to take care of her when the time comes. My mother did nothing to intervene and stop my sister's suicide or give me a head's up that my sister had reached that low of a point.My sister was trying not to bother me with the problems -- because she would never ask a soul for help.The sister left it all to me with an understanding that I would try to help mother -- just mother.After 2 years of being mother's caregiver I understand.
Unfortunately the problem you describe, in one form or another, is very common. Human nature leads people to do what they percieve to be in their best interest.